Positive Mai

Ready for change

January 18, 2018
by Hoang-Mai

Two years after MKMMA…

Two years after MKMMA, my dream has come true. I started MKMMA in october 2015 telling myself : “in six months, I want to know what I want to do with my life”.

When your goal is clear and you devote all your energy to it, you achieve it. After 6 months, I knew I wanted to be of service to the field of Education. Two years after, I have, with a group of motivated people like me, created the School of Grivery. It is our path to building a better world. Here and now.

I think one of the goals I had in life was to stop being afraid all the time. Afraid of being hurt, afraid of pain, afraid of failure, afraid of meditation, afraid of being alone… but it did not came clear until recently that my search for harmony was a search for peace of mind.

I had to fight a breast cancer during last term of 2017. It showed me that I was not afraid of myself anymore. It showed me that I was loved for who I am, with all my defects, and it showed me I could love myself for who I am with all my defects!

I can medidate for 30 minutes, which is much better than when I used to look at my watch after only 5 minutes, but I have discovered that I enjoy much more Tai Chi or Qi Cong.

So anyway, MKMMA gave me tools that are precious to go to the next step, wherever you are on the ladder of your life. And for that, I feel grateful and wanted to express it today.

March 26, 2017
by Hoang-Mai

+1 year – What has changed?

Ecole des rêveurs lunaires

I followed the MKMMA class year 2015-2016 for 6 months. At the time, I had to practice hard to create new pathways in my brain and use the tools provided that worked the best for me to help me achieve my goals over myself.

After one year, I don’t have to read the blueprint builder anymore, I live it. I don’t need to read myself my plan of action 3 times a day. I know what I am willing to struggle for. I awake each morning with a vitality I have never known before like it was said in the first scroll of Og Mandino’s “Greatest Salesman in the World”, I don’t have to read myself daily my “DMP” (= definite major purpose = you write down your goals on a paper as SMART objectives) aloud to know what sounds right or wrong (that’s what you do at the very beginning of the training when you have no idea what your deep goals are, so you just keep trying things like : “I want to stop shouting on my kids when I come back from work” and then the training pushes you to fo further in your thinking : “how do you want to be with your kids?” Help your brain mark a new pathway!). I know my goals well enough and update my DMP regularly as my goals are met, one after the other. My poster of dreams stands well in sight of my bed and I know what I want. Day after day, I become a better version of me. I have put the 7 laws of the mind on the wall in the toilets with famous quotes and stories I like to meditate on while sitting on the throne. I have become pretty good at the 7 day mental diet, and finally, after more than a year, I start to be able to voice no opinion and be non judgemental. At the time, there was 2 things I could not achieve while doing the MKMMA : voice no opinion and meditate 15 minutes daily. I am so proud to have at last fully understood and integrated that quote from Kofi Annan : “Tolerance is a virtue that makes peace possible”.

Well, I have still not get to meditate daily but I try to live moments or glimpses of mindfulness each day and I improve in so many ways that the rest will come in time. I am already quite impressed by the road travelled so far. I am self-confident and happy to make the most of myself everyday.

May the maximum of people live the same bliss.

July 25, 2016
by Hoang-Mai

Organic Teen Culture


Soon, a new school “The Lunar Dreamers” opens in Gometz-le-Châtel, France. A democratic and secular school, a mixed class with children from 6 until 16 years old, where educing their best-self with positive education and neuroscience prevails.

A new school where the staff will let their inner light shine! Let our children grow into the changemakers of today and tomorrow and foster collective intelligence to improve the world around them. Teach them respect, empathy, mind training, gratitude, and let them find their own treasure and share it with the world.

May 8, 2016
by Hoang-Mai

Marriage on the rocks? Want to do more than survive? Focus!

What is a marriage on the rocks? In the dictionnary, I find this explanation : 1. likely to fail because of serious problems. The next question is : when do you consider a problem to be serious? And that’s where the compass of your heart helps. If you have not been taught to trust your feelings and live with them in harmony, then you will be more likely to blind yourself and enter survival mode. And you don’t want your focus to be on survive but more on live.

A few days before my 15th wedding anniversary, I had a big row with my husband, on Christmas day. It was truly appalling. All our children were scared in the car thinking that we would end in a car accident on the side of the road. Thanks to the Master Key Experience, I was able to focus on what I want and accept my wrongs and decide what to do in the future to avoid the same situation.

This morning I had a row again with my husband. We both cried, overwhelmed by emotions of hurt feelings, frustration, pity, sadness and what more. My intention in my head was to help him, but in my husband’s mind, it turned out all wrong and agressive. Because I keep on interrupting him and he cannot get to the end of his sentences. My husband is definitely not spontaneous and not assertive. When I insisted that my only intention was to help him, he said reproachfully that it did not sound like it. As I can be persuasive, I told him spontaneously that if it had been 6 months ago the same situation, I would have been very selfish, insensitive, bossy, demanding and argumentative, but now, I was not anymore. He paused a while and admitted that it was true. 6 months ago, it would have been much worse!

“But still”, he said, “how can you expect to help me with what you tell me?”. I replied that I was trying at least! And only that mattered.

I did not need to argue anymore on insignificant things because I knew what I want and I embrace defenselessness now. He was all surprised that I could accept so easily being wrong in this and that. It is not important how I was before or how I do things wrong today (that I know doing wrong unwillingly and that I intend to fix with focus and persistence), because now I am the person I intend to become and I know where I am going. I know I go in the right direction anyway, with ups and downs, but I get there, surely, persistently, calmly. And my goal is to help him and love him. It’s clearly part of my goals and it’s on the walls everywhere in the house.

I have always been very curious about the fact that some couples divorce after many years of happy marriage together and several children together. How? Why? How to avoid it? Many divorced friends had told me that the love in the couple is like a fire that you need to fuel regularly with wood. Not doing so, you end up in a routine where you don’t know anything anymore.

So if you have the feeling that your marriage is on the rocks, ask yourself : “where’s my focus?” and feed the fire with some wood! There is a sentence I like a lot in the Master Keys : “Remember that thought is the fire that creates the steam that turns the wheel of fortune, upon which your experiences depend”


I pretend not to know

May 8, 2016
by Hoang-Mai

Week 30 – Color code and Franklin makeover, just keep trying!

I read recently my color code report and was surprised by what I read. I already read it 7 months ago, but it had not at all the same resonance at the time. To say the truth, I was totally in shock at the results 6 months ago. I was so far from seeing me like what the report said that I guess I could not register all the information.

After 6 months of Master Key Experience, I have found my true self and everything is fitting together now.

My strengths are : spontaneous, carefree, flexible, positive, happy, persuasive, proactive, productive, assertive.

My weaknesses : forgetful, poor follow-through, an interrupter, impulsive, selfish*, insensitive*, bossy*, demanding*, argumentative* (* I have worked already on those ones during those last 6 months and they are not true anymore).

When the MKE class ended, they told us to keep working on virtues that we wanted to develop (what they call the “Franklin Makeover”). I definitely think that it’s time now for me to work on being a good listener (the opposite of being an interrupter and impulsive) and also on being a good follow-through and have a good memory instead of being forgetful. I have asked yesterday my husband and children to help me. I told them it was my goal and I needed help to get out of my old blue print on those points.

My character makeover? Just keep trying! If I don’t get it right today, I may get it right tomorrow. And it’s not because I have been an interrupter all my life that I can not change today or tomorrow. I just have to grab a pencil and a paper and organise myself while in discussion with someone. With persistent practice, I’ll produce perfect performance! One day, I will be able to leave the pencil and paper because I won’t be forgetful and my brain will have enough practice to retain my firing thoughts while listening to the other one speak! I will master the art of debating and co-creating a better world…